07 Feb 6 Things Resilient Kids Know
Our young people experience tough times. As parents we would like to save them from the challenges they encounter, but that’s not possible, nor would it be beneficial. In order to best aid our young people we need to help them build their resilience so that they can see challenges as an opportunity to learn, grow and bounce back from.
Here are 6 Tips on how to help build Resilience so our young people can learn to overcome challenges and live a happy and confident life:
1. Accept That Life Happens.
Accept that challenging circumstances/mistakes will happen. It doesn’t matter who you are or where you come from you will face challenges and make mistakes.
Children who understand that life is like a roller coaster with lots of ups and downs, will ride the journey of life with more ease and confidence.
2. Emotions Change.
Explain that from these challenges and mistakes difficult emotions will come up (i.e. anger, disappointment, embarrassment, sadness etc). Each day we have lots of emotions. They are constantly changing like the hands on a clock. These emotions are normal and experienced by everyone.
3. Provide an Emotional Outlet.
Encourage them to come up with healthy ways to release these emotions (art, walking, talking to someone, sports etc). Have them create a list so that they know what to do when these emotions arise. Put the list in a place they can see everyday. It’s also great for us to know their healthy ways to release their emotions so that we can remind them of what to do when they are overwhelmed by emotion.
Journalling is also great way to release emotions. I’ve created the UPower Journal as a guide to help young people build resiliency by releasing their emotions in a healthy way. Download the FREE 7 day UPower Journal in the sidebar of this article.
4. What Choice Do You Have?
Write out all the choices that can be made from the challenging circumstances or mistakes that they are experiencing. This will change their focus from ‘what happened’ to ‘how can I move through this’.
It is important that they understand that just because ‘that happened’ it is not the end of the world. They will realize that the circumstances/mistakes are an opportunity to ‘Live, Learn & Grow’.
5. Act On It.
Put the new choice(s) into ACTION! Having a new direction changes their focus to ‘I can move through this challenge/mistake.’
6. Ask for Support.
Let your children know you are always there for them. Give them suggestions of places t seek help – Kids Help Phone, teachers, principals, relatives, friends, counsellors, books, movies, music etc. Remind them that it shows a lot of strength and courage to ask for the support they deserve.