19 Feb 7 Activities You Can Do At Home To Help Build Resilience
When families participate in activities together it helps children feel supported and confident, allowing them to learn skills to bounce back from life’s challenges and to better handle stress.
Since learning these skills is an ongoing process it’s important to create habits, rituals and traditions that are enjoyed regularly together.
In this article I share 7 ways families can build these skills together.
1. Schedule time for activities as a family
Being intentional about spending time together as a family supports children in feeling secure in their relationships, which is a key factor to building confidence and resilience. Children who feel secure generally have a positive outlook and feel comfortable trying new things.
Children who feel secure generally have a positive outlook and feel comfortable trying new things.[/caption]
Create daily rituals such as sit down dinners or stories before bed. Then a few times a week, schedule fun activities to do together. Ideas include:
- Playing board games – look for games that develop skills like cooperation and problem solving such as Forbidden Island.
- Baking – baking teaches skills such as patience and problem solving while helping young people understand what goes into their food.
- Crafts – completing crafts successfully helps develop confidence. Look for fun, age appropriate options. Pinterest is a great source of inspiration.
- Getting into nature – leaving life’s distractions for the calm of nature, improves children’s ability to relax and focus.
- Sharing a family hobby – choose an interest that everyone in the family enjoys.
2. Start a daily gratitude journal.
Get a blank journal and spend time together each night reflecting on one thing each member is grateful for. This helps everyone discover that, even though you may have had a bad day, there is always something to be thankful for.
Focus on gratitude for people and experiences rather than material things.
Even on bad days, there is always something to be thankful for.[/caption]
For more ideas on journaling to create confidence, resilience & gratitude check out the UPower Journal. You can download a free 7 day mini-journal on the top right of this page.
3. Volunteer to serve others.
As a family choose a cause that has meaning and passion for you.[/caption]
Volunteering has more benefits than the good it does for the community including:
- Reducing depression by supporting and helping other people.
- Improving confidence, happiness and optimism.
- Boosting the immune system for better health.
- Reducing challenging emotions.
As a family choose a cause that has meaning and passion for you and then spend time volunteering together.
4. Give to others
Giving can reduce a sense of entitlement.[/caption]
Giving reminds children to be grateful for the good in their own lives and it helps reduce a sense of entitlement. Some ways you could encourage giving include:
- Have everyone go through their clothes and belongings and donate anything that is no longer used.
- Start asking children to donate 10% of their allowance to their preferred charity.
- Challenge them to perform random acts of kindness to strangers.
- Have them participate in giving food to the Food Bank.
Be sure to reinforce that those less fortunate are equals. They are going through hard times and need support.
5. Celebrate family members by doing something special for each person
Encourage family members to think about what would be special and meaningful to each person, rather than what they might like themselves.[/caption]
Being thoughtfully generous builds relationships and reinforces positive qualities such as kindness and respect. Encourage family members to think about what would be special and meaningful to each person, rather than what they might like themselves.
This could be anything from leaving them a special note to making hot chocolate after a cold day outside.
6. Try something new as a family!
Being adventurous isn’t in everyone’s comfort zone but knowing you’re together in a new experience gives support and builds confidence. Pushing comfort zones in a safe way and putting in the effort, helps reduce the fear of the unknown and develops courage and resilience.
Start with small steps and remember to celebrate your successes.[/caption]
Have FUN researching your new activity together as a family. Start with small steps and remember to celebrate your successes.
7. Create a happiness bag.
Whenever someone is experiencing feelings like sadness, anger, loneliness or frustration, have them pick something from their happiness bag to help them change their focus in a positive direction.
Get person to 10 things that bring a smile to their face.[/caption]
Here’s how you make one:
- Gather as many magazines as you can find.
- Sit down as a family.
- Give each family member a box or bag labelled with their name.
- Ask each person to cut out 10 things (quotes, words or pictures) that bring a smile to their face.
- Have them place the chosen items in their bag.
Make meaning together
One of the most common things I hear the students I work with say is that they wish they could spend more time with their families. The habits and rituals you create as a family will make for the most cherished memories and will have positive rewards for a lifetime.