Are Hurtful Words Affecting Your Child’s Self-Worth?

After one of my UPower presentations a young lady came up to me and shared that she was being called fat. This is not the first time a young person – boys and girls alike – have shared that they are being disrespected. It happens too often!

I, too, have experienced being negatively judged. In grade 7 a boy in my class would say to me, ‘Sara, you have a big bum!’ One day he actually yelled it in front of a group of other students. Another time, during track and field, a girl came up to me and said, ‘You have fat legs!’ Both times I was so embarrassed and felt so hurt!

As a young person I didn’t realize that when people hurt others it’s often because they are in pain and want to take the focus off themselves and put it onto someone else. I needed to be reminded that it wasn’t about me, it was about them. Without that realization, I took those hurtful, disrespectful  words personally and thought there was something wrong with me, which had a negative impact on my self-confidence and my self-worth

I now know that what others choose to say says much more about them than it will ever say about the person they are being disrespectful and hurtful to.

I share with young people all the time:

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